I’ve been blogged for a few years now and if you’ve been reading you know I’ve faced my challenges of feeling inspired, questioning whether to continue and constantly reminding myself why I love it. I have my 9-5 job which I am so grateful to love and this was always meant to be a part-time thing though it consumes a lot of time which I think some people don’t always realize.
I was recently in conversation with a fellow blogger and she was expressing the same sentiment and a sincere disappointment with the performance and growth of her blog that I felt I had to share some feels on the topic and life choices in general.
To give context: this is a woman with a significant following, strong pageviews on her blog and she has committed to making this career her full-time job. My heart was breaking when I read how she was feeling, she was considering quitting altogether as she felt inadequate by comparison to some of these fellow bloggers/influencers who have blown up very quickly with what seems like little effort.
And I get that, I think some of us more seasoned bloggers all do: I know people say that life/goals are all about hard work, keeping your head down and staying in your lane, “If you want it bad enough you’ll will it to happen.”
But unfortunately, especially in the day of social media, that is soooo not true.
People buy followers, people have rich parents who bank roll their wardrobe, people just get plain old lucky.
I hate to say it but it is the truth. Some of the bloggers or social influencers that pop up overnight simply have the luck of the draw, are paying for it or are not and someone else is LOL. Their content isn’t any stronger than my friend’s let’s say, it just is what it is.
And I don’t think there’s a single person who wouldn’t agree that that sentiment is tough to swallow.
But despite that simple truth, I think what is important to always go back to is your center and ask yourself why you started. I know my reasons for continuing to blog and it’s what gets me out of bed on a Sunday to shoot when I could be sleeping in. It’s why I wake up at 5 AM to write a post or stay home while my friends are out to edit photos and pitch brands. I may have considered at one time taking blogging on as a full career but my decision to continue leading a double life are my reasons alone.
I don’t want my friend to give up on her dreams but the beautiful thing about blogging is that you can find a balance should it not be the career for you. I’ve had tons of people ask me about starting a blog and then once they realize what goes into it (or start out on their own and quickly realize the time consumption) they hard stop. Not having it. It’s work and when it’s your livelihood I can only imagine how frustrating it must be to not be excelling at the rate you’d like to. For me, it’s like any life choice. I have to weigh to pros and cons and determine how to have balance if it’s worth keeping in my life.
You have to find your happy medium; a place that is comfortable but challenging enough for you to stay committed.
And I think that applies in any job decision or life choice. There’s always going to be someone luckier, smarter, faster, younger, “better” than you. But you need to remind yourself that no matter what you are making choices that work for you and that positively influence your life.
So I hope if you’re feeling stuck in a rut, whether it be work, love or life, that you take a step back and ask yourself what’s in it for you. This is your life you’re allowed to be selfish and you’re allowed to feel angry at circumstance or confused about your next move. It can be thrilling, it can be gut-wrenching but at the end of the day it is your life and the beautiful thing is you’re the one who’s writing the story and I for one am just excited to keep turning the page.